From Redditor u/throwawayunicorn7:

Me (20F) and my buddy, let’s name her Sara (24F), met on stan Twitter (no judgment please) 2 years in the past and though we weren’t shut first, we change into good on-line mates after some time and mainly began texting each day.

After some time, nevertheless, issues in our friendship began feeling very pressuring for me. She would make tweets that she feels unhappy each time I’d inform her I am attending a social operate or am going to uni and each time I would textual content her I am going out she would ship me unhappy face emojis and say, “I hope you are house quickly so you’ll be able to relaxation,” which to me felt unusual as a result of I am a uni pupil and every thing that does not contain finding out is relaxation to me. This did not appear to be an enormous downside to me till she additionally began working once more at hours I’m asleep (2 am till 11 am) and/or headed to uni. She would get mad at me if I am not at all times texting her on the bus or in school, and if I wasn’t ready to try this she would count on me to textual content her rather a lot at night time. If I had uni work to do or wished to attract/sing, she would get offended at me and inform me I am not making time for her. After I bought a BF, she began getting offended at me for occurring dates with him as soon as per week as a substitute of speaking to her, since I am supposedly placing him first earlier than her and would get offended at me and scold me if I stayed up till 1 am to have video chats with him.

This bought pressuring for me, as a result of all this whereas I have never “been in a position to textual content her,” I nonetheless would textual content her any probability I bought each day.. At a sure level I would get nervous breakdowns as a result of she’d get upset at me for the slightest issues (going to sleep after doing my uni work “since she stayed up for me as she anticipated me to textual content her after nonetheless,” thoughts you it was 2 am and I needed to get up at 6 am to have the ability to catch my bus at 7 am for uni that day, going to mattress at 10 pm some days, and many others.) and at some point, once we had visitors over at 2 pm (I had been texting her that day within the morning and within the afternoon each probability I bought), and I used to be in a position to have some “me time” that I wished to spend revising my oral examination that I would have 2 days later (because the subsequent day I would be house at 8 pm from uni and would not have an excessive amount of time), she despatched me a paragraph over how upset she is I am not making time to speak to her and do not worth our friendship as a result of I am revising as a substitute of texting her. I informed her I discover that bizarre since we did textual content at this time and I used to be nonetheless replying to her, simply with 5~10 minute time distinction, however she insisted “mates are part of every day life.”

I informed her I discovered her possessive and controlling and I want she’d be extra supportive over me having a social life and eager to do effectively, as I felt she wished to isolate me from these features of life.

So, AITA on this state of affairs? I really feel like an iffy particular person to be sincere and I genuinely really feel like I suck at being a buddy.